• Classy@sh.itjust.works
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    10 days ago

    What a sad situation. I know a lot of people here think this is abuse and I can see their perspective, but I see this more as a relationship lacking communication. The wife didn’t feel assured that her husband loved her anymore and the divorce papers were a last ditch effort to see if he still does. Sure, just talking openly would be better, but goddamn is it hard to find people who can do that.

    I think the fact that she broke down and tore up the papers immediately after is a sign that she really didn’t want to do it and was reacting to his genuine reply.

    I think OOP needs couple’s therapy.

    • jwmgregory@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      10 days ago

      are you and the 93 people who upvoted you crazy??

      lmfao in what fucking world is serving divorce papers and then tearing them up right after they’re signed not even just a little bit toxic, if not emotionally abusive?

      maybe a fucking adam sandler movie but this is real life.

      think before you do stupid shit? other people don’t owe you discretion bc you’re an idiot? “uwu but what about the wife’s feeeeelings???” brother man grow tf up this isn’t a high school fling it’s a marriage. if you wanted to pull shit like this, why did you change it from girlfriend/boyfriend to husband/wife? was that about feelings too?

      oop shouldve ran when they had the chance and the papers were signed.

      sorry as someone who grew up as a child caught between this stupid shit people like you piss me off so much. this is traumatic for all involved.

      • pickman_model@sh.itjust.works
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        8 days ago

        maybe a fucking adam sandler movie but this is real life

        In all fairness, that looks like 4chan, so maybe we should lower our expectations here a bit more. I’m sorry you had to go through all that crap growing up. I hope you are in a better situation now.

  • surph_ninja@lemmy.world
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    10 days ago

    This is fiction.

    It takes a lot more than 3 days to finalize terms of the divorce. It usually takes longer than that just to get both of your lawyers to look over and approve it.

    Even if these two people are both lawyers, and decided to represent themselves, you’d need a notary present when you’re signing.