I feel like I’ve dealt with some utterly uncalled for behavior from people at work recently. Like them blowing up at me about something if I’m just asking a polite question, etc.
I just tell myself “maybe they’re having a bad day”.
But I think about myself. I have bad days too. I never let it get to the point where I’m exploding at someone. I extricate myself from the situation, maybe fume about it privately, but I don’t go on a rampage or yell at someone. In any rare case where I do end up letting a bit slip out I always apologize for it.
These people NEVER apologize to me for their outbursts. Why am I the only one walking on eggshells and trying to maintain professionalism, politeness, and kindess with people who seem to make no effort to regulate their own stress.
Someone having a bad day isn’t an excuse to be bad human being with zero consequences. But it seems these people can get away with it because of how much power they hold in the company.
I honestly don’t think I have it in me to as rude as some of these people so I’ll probably just swallow their rudeness until the next time it happens while continuing to try to be kind and polite.
Have others had similar experiences?
It sounds like the people you’re dealing with probably got to their current positions either by playing at office politics or some kind of nepotism. When someone asks them to do something they’re not actually qualified to do but is still part of their job they get around it by yelling and acting too busy and somehow making it all seem like your fault. If they don’t spend all day complaining and bearing people it would mean they’d actually have to learn how to do their jobs and that would be work