Over a decade ago, Obama proposed significantly expanding AmeriCorps, the tea party Republicans basically did everything they could to water down the expansion to amount to basically nothing.
I wonder if Twitter Republicans even know AmeriCorps exists.
Followed by Tiptoe Through The Tulips, bwahaha!
The entire sound track of Hotline Miami 1 and 2.
If I had to pick one, Hydrogen by MOON.
Well I won’t be having any kids… never wanted them, can’t afford them anyway…
…but if I did have kids, who lived with me and supported me in my old age, I’d be humble and grateful for their help, and recognize that declining cognitive ability is just a thing that happens as you get older.
I’d call it reaping what you sow.
I had the feeling man (don’t know your gender but I mean it as a term of solidarity)…
I had the feeling that your situation was significantly worse than just IT problems.
I’ve managed to be in basically the situation you are in, once with a family member, another time with a partner.
Definitely look into how the formal process for being declared her caretaker works in your state/county.
Theres a good chance that there’s some kind of non profit group in your county, or pro bono lawyer or some kind of legitimate body that can help you through the particulars of how that works.
Definitely get as many relevant, official ‘i am her caretaker’ statuses and/or required evidence of such lined up before you try to start with the power of attorney stuff.
Getting durable power of attorney / living will / whatever your particular locale calls it, that’ll be much easier if you are already her caretaker.
… But yeah.
You’re not screaming into the void on this one…
I hear you.
Don’t try to do a million things at once, don’t completely do a 180 overnight and start bossing her around right off the bat… take the time to move through all the red tape correctly.
3, full, deep breaths, all the way in, hold for 20 seconds, all the way out.
I’d give you a hug if I could.
Tell her you’ll fix it if she gives you power of attorney.
No, I’m not joking.
If you are having to spend 8 hours to figure out how to help her manage her basic affairs, if you are constantly teaching her how to use a password manager and she cannot figure it out, she has diminished cognitive capacity.
If she has already delegated you to be in charge of all her account logins, she’s basically already given you de facto control over them, already acknowledged she isn’t capable of of managing her own affairs.
Gather a bunch of other evidence that she has trouble with basic tasks, can’t reliably perform basic household activities, manage finances, whatever, approach a lawyer and get the power of attorney document(s) drawn up.
EDIT: // Holy shit, just saw your other comment:
Well I also cook everything, grocery shop and fix everything (basic electrical, plumbing, woodworking, installations, etc).
Yeah, you are already functionally her caretaker.
Depending on the state you’re in (assuming you are in the US) you might be able to actually get yourself certified as her caretaker without much or any actual input from her, before you pursue power of attorney. //
This solves the cut out problem.
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After that, explain your solution:
Print out a big list of all those passwords and logins for her.
Meanwhile, you’ve got them all as well, presumably you can just use her password manager and have access to it.
If she resets a password and can’t figure out how to log back in, fix it back to something you know, but don’t let her use this account for one week.
After a week, print out a new list for her with the new password you’ve set.
If she resets another password while in a 7 day timeout period, well now it’ll be two weeks for both passwords to become available to her, etc.
This may sound like too much, but she’s a cognitively diminished entitled brat, who has already conditioned you into being a doormat who is expected to waste a seemingly endless amount of time and effort to solve problems she creates, problems that people without a live-in technical support agent pay hundreds of dollars to solve.
She will not learn if she has no impetus to. She’s obviously used the ‘tough love’ model on you, use it back on her.
If she complains about this, doesn’t matter, you have power of attorney, send her to an old folks home, sell the house and move to an apartment, or rent a room out if it or something.
Hrm what did you miss…
At this point, basically all academics and scientists of pretty much any field who are not connected to a conservative think tank or corporate astroturf advocacy group…
Teachers…
Black Americans…
The Homeless…
Anyone that wants to watch porn…
Yep.
I have been expected to solve tech problems constantly, constantly blamed for when further problems arise due to others undoing what I fixed or not following my instructions, expected to undertake large tech oriented projects or research that take up significant amounts of my time, for no benefit to myself.
And when I am unavailable for whatever reason, my family members and friends would pay an hourly wage to other tech savvy family members or friends to do what I was negged into doing for free… and of course they would usually do it in a far sloppier, less efficient, more expensive way or even fail completely, yet still be paid.
… along with many other instances like this, I eventually realized that basically everyone I used to know was actually a gaslighting, narcissistic, exploitative piece of shit with insanely hypocritical double standards, and just fucking ghosted everyone and moved halfway across the country.
Woops!
Turns out I have CPTSD!
Burnt offerings to Yahweh?
Oh my fucking god, I was joking about this a few months back.
If you ban books with explicit sexual material, you also have to ban the Bible, because it contains multiple scenes/stories/verses that are that.
Ham very likely rapes Noah, if you go by many scholar’s interpretations of what ‘seeing his nakedness’ means and implies in the original Hebrew.
Lot’s daughters get Lot drunk and rape him after they survive the obliteration of Sodom and Gomorrah.
Ezekiel chastizes Oholah and Oholibah for having ‘had (their) breasts fondled’ and having ‘lusted after lovers with genitals as large as a donkey’s and emmissions like those of a horse.’
Saul demands a wedding dowry from David of one hundred Philistine foreskins… and David brings him two hundred.
… And thats just the stuff that pops into my head right off the bat. There are many more descriptions of sex and rape… pretty sure Samson’s entire story basically revolves around him being a giant horn dog for Jezebel…
‘Affirmative Voice’ is not really a thing, as far as codified English grammar goes.
They may mean active voice:
Active Voice: The soldiers shot the man.
Passive Voice: The man was injured by the soldiers’s gunfire.
Or they may mean to simply be affirmative, as in, polite, reassuring, informative, non-confrontational, etc?
Or, if you take ‘voice’ to be the more technical definition within the realm of phonetics, they could mean that you should be pronouncing consonants and vowels in a manner that they personally find affirmative…?
Anyone who is telling you to ‘use an affirmative voice’ is ironically being vague and not really demonstrating a great understanding of English themselves.
It would be less confusing if they said something along the lines of ‘phrase your questions in a non-hostile, affirmative manner.’
English does not have a formally defined ‘affirmative voice’ the way that it does with ‘active voice’, ‘passive voice’, ‘reflexive voice’, ‘reciprocal voice’, etc.
Its one of the US’s three main social credit score companies, that determines your ability to rent or buy a home or car or get a job by selling your credit data to companies that perform background checks on you, background credit checks which you pay for.
Fun fact:
Will Smith was the first actor approached by the Wachowskis to be Neo in the Matrix.
He turned it down to work on Wild Wild West, and the role of Neo went to Keanu.
Most home wreckers are self aggrandizing hypocritical narcissists, so… yeah.
Sonuva… I just wrote almost exactly the same story about not realizing you even can steal a newspaper as a kid.
A newspaper.
Did not know it was stealing… I was … maybe 7?
Up until that point in my life, I’d only ever been to stores or restaurants that had free flyers or small community newsletters.
First time I was in a similar small store, I assumed full, 30+ page newspapers worked the same way.
After being informed that full newspapers cost money, and I had stolen it, I returned it.
The store clerk did not even realize I had taken the paper, laughed, appreciated my honesty, and gave me a tootsie pop.
He put his shoes on the Presidential Desk!
… as has basically every President in the last 40 years, in at least one photo, but Augh freak out when Obama does it!
RFK Jr has seriously proposed sending drug addicts, which he defines as people taking prescribed medication for mental health reasons, as well as your more stereotypical hardcore drug addicts… to basically agricultural work / detox camps.
No meds, no phone, live in a barracks, do farm work… while you and everyone else are cold turkey quitting heroin, or fentanyl, or ritalin or zoloft or wellbutrin.