It’s pretty damn close to being an absolute. As someone who has never been involved in an adulterous relationship in any form, I would never get with someone who has cheated. They have shown they are absolutely willing to violate an intimate partners trust, lie about it, and leave them (likely with little to no guilt). If they can do it once, they can, and likely will, do it again.
Passionate love and Companionate love are two different things. And passionate love never lasts forever. If you’re with someone who is willing to cheat to find that passionate love, then when it dies with you, they are likely to go on to the next short term passionate love.
If you want to make the argument that someone cheated in a relationship with an abusive partner, there are still substantial red flags there. Without showing how they’ve made great strides to be a different person (therapy, self improvement, etc) I can’t see them being a trustworthy long term partner. And there is no way someone could have made those improvements if they went from one partner immediately to the next.
It’s pretty damn close to being an absolute. As someone who has never been involved in an adulterous relationship in any form, I would never get with someone who has cheated. They have shown they are absolutely willing to violate an intimate partners trust, lie about it, and leave them (likely with little to no guilt). If they can do it once, they can, and likely will, do it again.
Passionate love and Companionate love are two different things. And passionate love never lasts forever. If you’re with someone who is willing to cheat to find that passionate love, then when it dies with you, they are likely to go on to the next short term passionate love.
If you want to make the argument that someone cheated in a relationship with an abusive partner, there are still substantial red flags there. Without showing how they’ve made great strides to be a different person (therapy, self improvement, etc) I can’t see them being a trustworthy long term partner. And there is no way someone could have made those improvements if they went from one partner immediately to the next.