Honestly, if it was the other way around and the rich boyfriend was coming to a backyard bbq in the country, he’d feel uncomfortable wearing a suit probably, and it would help to give him a heads up on the “local customs.”
Trying to make sure two cultures are able to mesh well so that everyone gets along isn’t a bad thing. It was delivered badly here, but is not innately bad.
Not “I don’t want you to feel out of place” or “I don’t want you to embarrass yourselves” or “I don’t want these superficial people to think less of you because of something this superficial”.
You didn’t raise her to find unacceptable to train your parents to behave differently to have them fit a crowd of rich people.
Honestly, if it was the other way around and the rich boyfriend was coming to a backyard bbq in the country, he’d feel uncomfortable wearing a suit probably, and it would help to give him a heads up on the “local customs.”
Trying to make sure two cultures are able to mesh well so that everyone gets along isn’t a bad thing. It was delivered badly here, but is not innately bad.
“I don’t want you to embarrass me”.
Not “I don’t want you to feel out of place” or “I don’t want you to embarrass yourselves” or “I don’t want these superficial people to think less of you because of something this superficial”.