her mother died 2 weeks ago.
I told her I’m sorry but after thinking about what to say I couldn’t come with anything better than repeating sorry again. She then told me and another coworker how she died.
I want to show her that I care but I don’t want her mother’s death to become the elephant in the room each time we talk.
This is not romantic in any way.
Whatever your existing dynamic with this coworker is, keep it the same. More than enough people are going to be backing away because they don’t want to do “the wrong thing,” or getting unnecessarily closer because they want to “be supportive.” Those are both just extra changes she’ll have to deal with along with the loss of her mother.
Offer stability. You can even explain this out loud to her directly.