As a cus straight guy myself I’m not sure fully understand the question but here goes my best interpretation,

I do not recommend this but the only thing I could think of is not displaying any affection to your parter, but if someone said I couldn’t hold my girlfriend’s Hand in public id be pretty pissed. So just be yourself OP

In my experience I’ve never noticed and even if i did I don’t care, they’re just doing their thing. The only time I’ve noticed some ‘act gay’ is that Hollywood over the top stereotype flamboyant kind, and whenever I see those people I wish I had that energy, just living you absolute best life

Kinda got a little off track there but my point is unless your in physical danger (I hope your not) just be yourself and what you think is right

As someone who isn’t tech savvy I only joined the fediverse when I had no other choice when Apollo shutdown (except of course going back to Reddit)

Heck when I heard talks of lemmy hearing the word servers was enough to spook me out of joining until last minute

I had a point in here somewhere but I’m so tired i lost it so feel free use your imagination

Try the recovery codes would be what I’d do

Maybe try the I no longer have access to the “I no longer have access” button, unless the only option there related to point 1

If all else fails you could contact customer support