Meh. Only the NSFW stuff I guess, but nothing that I wouldn’t tell someone if they really wanted to know.
But I stay off Facebook because I’m not interested in having an online presence or profile, so I guess in the sense of suddenly being thrust into that world at all, not related to the content I’ve posted just the literal online presence - that would bother me more, and the threat of violence or crime from being more visible like that.
Getting better all the time!
I only regret not leaving earlier, I was worried my ex might die as he was in a really bad place, had become radicalized on the internet, drink and abusive, I should have left before I too did things I ought not have done, and should have worried much more about the kids and less about him.
But my life immediately improved, as did my children’s lives. And it’s been a steady climb upward. My ex floundered for quite a few years but found his way too, quit drinking, that helped a lot. He eventually caught up on child support, before the last kid was 18, even. Is not prospering but is much more stable.
I used to argue with him that he should straighten himself out while he had the love and support of a family but I guess everyone has to find their way however they can. I will say his life getting worse while mine got better, while it didn’t make me happy, did make me feel secure in the decision to leave.
There’s a song:
“I was looking back to see if she was looking back to see if I was looking back at her”
And also an Islamic proscription against looking twice at a person of opposite sex since it signals interest.
So at least one sort of look that signals interest is the looking again. I also think the kind of sideways look with a smile is good.
Do not go for intense and smoldering. That is some sort of advanced level shit that we civilians cannot manage, it will go wrong.
Wait, that’s one half to do the killin’ and one half to do the cleanin’? Ok.
Off topic but I saw a run over vulture yesterday, fuck whoever did that, those birds are awesome. I love them. I once had something dead drug into my yard by some local creature and I was trying to get myself psyched up to go deal with it but then, into my yard fly 4 vultures! When they left, no smell no mess, nothing. They are a miracle.
I really got a bad taste in my soul about the luddites mostly because of Wendell Berry and his use of his wife as the replacement for a computer. I mean, sure if you are willing to exploit people, machines are less important. But he didn’t even type his own work. She typed, proofread, edited. Like a word processor but a human one.
It’s more like padding, I was an anorexic teen and young woman so even though I’ve finally gained weight in midlife and feel fat by my standards, people see me as thin. I’m tall, so even if I lose a couple inches to age I won’t be short. If you are very smart, it doesn’t prevent dementia, no. It just takes longer to slide from a higher point, you have farther to go, your early dementia isn’t going to be as apparent to others.
As far as I know, only physical exercise can prevent it and only for a subset of people. Like, if you keep your heart and circulation healthy, you can prevent it if it’s preventable for you personally. Some people are doomed to it from heredity.
I don’t mean you can gain native intelligence, but nobody is using their full potential. I remember my mom saying that my sister got the most out of the “gifted” classes in school (I sincerely hope they don’t call them that anymore) because she barely qualified, so was challenged, engaged by the curriculum, and learned more than those of us who were bored because it was easy. Long after I was out of school she said she wished she had put me at least in a private school where you could move at your own pace. But hardly anyone gets that, in any family.
So I think a person who is less intelligent, recognizes it and learns and trains can end up in a better place than someone who is smart and so less motivated to try, since they don’t have to.
If just asking if I’d take extra smarts or extra looks from my starting point now? Extra smarts. I need them to hedge against dementia when I get older.
Where do I live? If I’m in a place where people are beautiful, slightly below average attractiveness would be perfect for the rest of the world, make me a genius.
If I live where people are so intelligent and are ugly, please make me better looking and slightly dumber than them, I can make my way through the world just fine.
I think looks are easier to fix, but learning can help fix stupid - I’m sure there are at least some stupid people with more sense than some smart people.
One of our dogs turns off the Roomba by thwacking the button with her paw. It took awhile to catch her in the act.
Stop smoking.
That’s about it, honestly.
Angel hair. Undercooked, undercooked, overcooked.
I do think the loneliness epidemic affects men more than women, and would argue it’s sexism harming men. On average, women are more likely to reach out, talk to people and family will check in on them if they are alone. Like, my husband (who is more outgoing than me and better at keeping up with friends) will call his mom or go up to see her, but leaves his dad alone unless he literally asks for something. Because men are taught it’s shameful to not be self sufficient, but women are taught to look for help if we need it.
Obviously this is not a straight gender split but on average it still plays out that way.
Like in Black Science, I think time travel would fuck with the fabric of reality. Make it shreddy.
I do not believe in nexus events; there is a personal reason (experience ) I don’t expect anyone else to believe based on something I experienced but I don’t. ETA: Unfortunately, everything has happened already, and I was very angry about it.
Just watched Arrival again yesterday and that’s my other guess. More like your choice of “you have already done it, you can’t alter the timeline” but can’t go outside your lifetime, time doesn’t work the way we think and we can perceive other “times” because they aren’t really linear, just some quirk of our perception makes it seem that way, you really exist concurrently all along your existence.
But if some machine was designed to take you before or after your lifetime, it would tear at the fabric of reality (lifetime not exactly the correct word but your existence that has a beginning and end of some sort).
Yoga in general and deadlifts are what I do. Back extension in both directions laying on your belly on a bench is good for strengthening it safely, start with small range of motion and extend it as you can.
Remember a few things - we spend more time bent forward than back, so make sure to strengthen the back in the arched direction as well. The whole body is connected so develop it in a balanced way. And move in every direction (intentionally). That last one is what yoga is so good for.