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3 days agoOh man, that brought back memories… my BPD ex would find ways to “”“”“accidentally”“”“” physically harm me and then immediately go “oooooh baby I’m so sorry!! I’m so clumsy and careless!!!” to get away with it.
Found that out when he came home late, I was in bed and awake because I heard him come in, but I cracked my eyes a bit. He came into the room, saw me on the bed with the hallway light, clearly examined me there, then he threw his whole body FULL WEIGHT onto me with his elbow (he was NOT a small man) and bruised the absolute fuck out of me. Same shit. “Oooh I didn’t see you there omggg!!!” Lying bastard.
It’s always after they marry you or when it’s most difficult for you to leave when it comes out.
We are no longer married. 👍
It was more difficult, but also more peaceful. I was no longer walking on eggshells, wondering what would set my partner off that day. Constantly having to manage your partner’s emotions take so much out of you.
I honestly feel like, even though it’s a bit more work, it’s nothing compared to doing it all anyway plus having to manage the daily life/emotions/well-being of an able-bodied adult.
I’m just happy to finally be free.