I’m in a similar situation and my strategy is to play the long game and win on convenience. I am giving my partner a curated HA dashboard as an option (vs the native apps). Once I feel like an integration is “production ready”, I put it in the curated dashboard. That way, she can choose her preferred interaction method… with the hope that eventually she’d just prefer HA and the functionality would be relatively equal without the cloud stuff.
I’m dreaming big
I guess you can’t beat openness and community for cross-compatibility