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  • For my it wasn’t about expressing them, it was about feeling them at all. Only the very very strongest ones could even crack through.

    Of course there was also the fact that my father threatened to beat me for crying “if I didn’t have a reason”, so there are obviously confounding factors, but interventions like therapy, meditation, changing my name, presenting female all the time, etc didn’t have anywhere near as much effect on my access to emotions as a couple of weeks on HRT.

    They were all helpful in different ways (sometimes enormously so), but it felt like there was an impedance mismatch between my conscious mind and the rest of my body, and the HRT fixed it.



  • I’m trans and, until I started HRT, had very little access to my emotions. I would desperately want to cry, and just would be unable. Or I would know I was supposed to be having some kind of emotional reaction to something, and just…wouldn’t.

    Very very soon after getting my hormones straightened out, I discovered that I was having emotions in sympathy with characters on tv or in movies. If I was sad I could actually cry for a bit and process the emotion rather than having to channel it into anger or physicality. It was like living in color instead of black and white, this whole arena of human experience I’d read about but hadn’t ever really felt.

    I’ve heard the same from trans guys as well; they didn’t ever feel like their emotions made sense until they got on T.

    My now-ex reacted to this, first with concern, then with contempt.