As someone who absolutely loved Cloud Atlas, I read the reviews for Jupiter Ascending hoping to be blown away yet again and I just couldn’t bring myself to even watch it. Considering The Matrix Resurrections was so bad I almost left the theater, I thought I chose right… Wachowskis have repeatedly missed the mark lately. Maybe I’ll give it a watch anyway.
Well I think the idea is that many of us hold ourselves to a much higher standard than we do others we care about. So it follows that if you give them grace, forgiveness, tolerance — why can’t you give such grace, forgiveness, tolerance to yourself whom you should also care about?Seeking to improve and be better is great, but we aren’t perfect little robots. At the end of the day — despite maybe knowing better — you still did X, so move past the self-bashing and think constructively how to improve going forward.
I’ll further note that we like to think of ourselves as this singular consciousness with a driver at the head, but let’s be honest… There are a whole host of competing voices in our heads with some sizable control of our faculties from different regions ranging from the Limbic system to the ACC — leaving aside the gut-brain axis that can pretty easily hijack your perception and priorities. For me it has been helpful as of recently to think of my state of mind as a collection of these voices with differing priorities. Thus changing my environment can keep the varying cabinet members content; that’s what you can do as the CEO in the prefrontal cortex.
The wife always goes, “If any of us did something like X would you be that hard on us? What would you say to us?.. So why would you treat yourself like that?”
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I wonder how many Trump supporters watch without realizing that Mr. Potter in all his greed and lack of empathy is Trump (though in fairness, arguably a better businessman than Donnie). I’m going to wager all.
Here in the US, those Terry’s chocolate oranges get pretty popular especially around the holidays. It’s tradition in our house that everyone’s stocking gets one. Wholly agree; those are the best!
A bit tangential to topic but I got to know someone on my wife’s side of the family. Cool socialist dude. We saw eye-to-eye on like 90% of things. Was refreshing.
He fell for the uncommitted wedge-driving bullshit and sat out the election. Drank the Russian vodka. This despite what’s at stake for his nieces, his cousin and women’s rights. This despite my wife’s plea to him to go vote.
That’s the last time I brought up politics or really care to speak to him. I really have no patience for willful ignorance anymore. People like this to me frustrate me so much more than red hats themselves.
See how Trump supports Palestinians now. And, curiously, boy those outcries sure did suddenly drop off over that post-election, huh. Much pyrrhic victory.
Yes. Steve Bannon.
Didn’t try. Did.
Mangione (similar to Bannon) has a mixture of state and federal charges levied against him, and Presidents cannot pardon state charges.
Save the snap. Use it as leverage to shape the future by threatening tyrants into standing down, for I have no idea what might happen absent of a historical event happening.
Now. Who to start with? Bibi? Putin? MBS? Closer to home?
Yeah it’s tough to say and you know your situation better than I do. Usually the people who wrong that severely are not people I cared for all that much to begin with; and yes, in those situations when someone you once cared for wrongs you deeply… The path to forgiveness can be tough if not possible. Been there under both circumstances.
I think I’m giving more broad generalized advice as to the fact that if you love and care about yourself then you should afford yourself some leeway within the context of being an imperfect human and not a perfect robot. If you continue to do X even when you try not to, it doesn’t necessarily mean you should hate yourself more or beat yourself up more — after all, how is that going to help but invoke a bad feedback loop? Look at it as a game and try to find a different way to approach the quest, perhaps?