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Cake day: June 13th, 2023

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  • You make very good points also to add women in online spaces have incentives to pretend to be male or be ambiguous and not bring attention that they are women online to reduce the harassment they get. I’m pulling numbers out of the air but I feel 10% the internet that is male are assholes or children that don’t have any social skills yet and the other 90% get lumped in with them because we don’t reach out at all as to not come off as creeps like the other 10%. So you don’t hear about the polite respectful ones.

    My hypothesis for this comes from the fact that most men I meet in real life are polite social people that respect women with about 10% being weird assholes. I also don’t blame women being guarded of all men as that 10% are true nightmare. I mean if there was a 10% chance a strange man you meet out in public was going to be Jason Voorhees. I would mace every man that came up to me as well. That’s how those assholes ruin it for everyone. Well except the grifrers that make it worse that is.

    Also I’m married but we met online before tinder broke dating sites. So take what I say with a grain of salt just from an old man that sees the struggle of young people of all genders go through and I have empathy for them.



  • lordnikon@lemmy.worldtoAsklemmy@lemmy.mlHow to get past this
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    5 days ago

    Honestly I think i posted this before but it all came about when I explained even if I wanted to I couldn’t. Like I broke down the math of my income and savings and how much her care will cost. Had to explain the world her and her parents left us with nothing they were grifted and the pay gap from 1970 broke the game. Her Brain kind of broke and she got real quiet and has not brought up that i owe her anything since.


  • I don’t know if this helps but i had a similar experience. My mother would bring it up all the time. It was many years after I had just given up the guilt of it. It finally came out. She was afraid noone would take care of her. Deep down she’s knew she never did anything to help me and now that she was losing her independence in her age. She is desperate to believe she has leverage to make sure i will take care of her when she’s unable to. It’s sad and pathetic but once it came to light my anger turned to pity.