The guy insinuated some pretty mean things about his colleague. But thats okay, since his colleague doesn’t read lemmy?

Did you though? You called me an asshole for asking a pretty non-judgemental, open ended question about the headspace of the person in question. I wrote nothing in there that i wouldn’t say to their face if they said what they said in the comment. You talk to me in a demeaning manor, which i didn’t do.

No offense taken. Trying to bring some sanity is all. I still haven’t received an honest answer to the question, so i guess it struck a bit to close to home.

Macho culture existed long before the loneliness. It’s a different kind of macho culture now that is detrimental.

Previous generations had less destructive outlets for machismo than boys of today. Being part of a sports team meant that you had an outlet and a group that you shared common goals with.

The word literally derives from feminine

feminine adjective (WOMEN) Showing qualities that people generally think are typical of women

There is an opposite term to feminism, masculinism, which then leads to the idea that it can’t be completely equal. But i assume people will keep using the term to mean “equal rights for all”, since thats usually how it goes with languages.

I just worry that the implication is changing so that women = equality and men = inequality. That train of thought is mainly what drives younger men to go off the wall with their chauvinistic tendencies.

If you’re so sensitive to comments about your appearance, then maybe you should question why you made the change to begin with?

Sounds like a harmless interaction, and your reaction makes you sound more offended than reasonable. But maybe i’m missing some subtleties lost in translation to text. Perhaps you did it cause you don’t like your job and wanted the reinforcement?

I think the ideology you think of when you say it’s for everyone, is egalitarianism. Feminism can’t be for everyone in the same way that patriarchy can’t mean “womens oppression of men”.

Unless of course, you’re looking to confuse with the terminology.

Instances, not community. Lemmy.ml for example?

Not really. People get paid for being the best at something. Thats not the same as, for example, watching people play poker, where the only objective is winning money. E-sports has the same money issue where someones excellence at a game is sullied by the fact that most of the competitions are measured by their prices pool. As if being the best at something isn’t enough anymore.