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Cake day: June 19th, 2023

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  • Person who had an alcoholic / addict father here. Speaking from my experience in what I saw in his world growing up. Both him, and in his world of helping / sponsoring others during the last couple of decades of his life whilst sober and recovering.

    For some people… an intervention can actually cause them to see the severity of the issue and be the catalyst for a motivation for wanting to change. It is a very small percentage, though, and it sounds like you’ve already tried or are already past that point.

    Sadly, for the overwhelming majority, most alcoholics / addicts have to hit a rock-bottom epiphany experience (which will vary person by person) to get them truly into committing to recovery. Nothing that anyone else says to or does for them is going to flip that switch.

    They have to flip that switch internally themselves. Once they do, they must also realize that every single day is going to be hard, and they will need to stay motivated.

    My dad once told me that even after being sober for almost two decades, he still had somewhere between 3 and a dozen serious cravings a week that he had to work himself away from. It gets easier to talk yourself down over time, but… the brain wiring was changed in addiction, and the temptations themselves never go away. Staying sober is a life of constant vigilance. You have to be committed, forever.

    Like for everyone afflicted, I hope your friend reaches that point sooner rather than later and moves into recovery. Best of luck to them.