I prefer to have same things all the days of the year. This extra pressure to celebrate on occasions feels so forced. I like the extra time I have for myself on holidays and don’t have it waste on things on obligatory celebrations.
Just let me be with me and my PC.
This is the vibe I’m feeling on this new year’s eve. Does anybody else feel this way?
It doesn’t have to be a big celebration, but I like to keep specific dates for holidays I celebrate with friends and family. It helps It feel special to me, like it’s something worth celebrating and carrying on a tradition of. Not that I am against celebrating the smaller things with loved ones more frequently, but a birthday on that actual day, Christmas (with or without religious connotations) with friends, or Friendsgiving, all feel extra special when celebrated on the day of the holiday rather than the Tuesday after.
What’s your family situation? Always when I was single as an adult, I dreaded Christmas. Now with kids, Christmas is a lot of fun, because it’s fun for the kids. New Year’s is just a nice reason to invite some friends over.
Why life is just harder for single people, encapsulated inadvertently in a comment.
By the time NYE rolls around, I’m tired of festivities, not just because my social battery gets deleted, but also because the food served at gatherings really sets off my IBS. This time of year I opt out of as much holiday stuff as I can without upsetting anyone, and I almost never do anything special for the new year.
Yeah I feel this OP. I am always forgetting birthdays, even my own sometimes tbh. I do randomly get gifts for friends and family, but its never for the usual holidays.
I…don’t have many friends, lol. But the ones I do have all understand my stance on holidays and celebrations. It’s just not for me.
Human variation.
Since before we evolved into humans, it’s never been a good idea to have all your eggs in one basket. So some humans don’t just enjoy that social interaction, they literally need it.
Others fucking hate it. And want nothing more than to be a hermit.
The variation helps prevent an entire group from being wiped out at once.
Oxytocin is what’s playing a big role in that variation, and some people use a nasal spray to increase their levels and be more social. But if you’re a man and your ingroup developed along racial lines due to not being exposed to other races when very young…
That extra Oxytocin is gonna make you biased against men of other ethnic groups. The whole “they’re coming for our women” thing is literally baked into our DNA. But if you’re around various races when young, you don’t form in group along racial lines. They’re not automatically “them” because some your “us” looked like them.
Which is why Alabama banning Sesame Street due to inclusivity or Nazis complaining about “woke media” is actually a serious thing. Even just seeing mixed race interactions on TV is enough for young viewers to develop ingroups that include various ethnic groups
