on the one hand this is what I said I wanted. The truth is more nuanced: I’m not quitting the job neither most of my coworkers: I’m quitting my manager and some childish coworkers.
on the other hand, why do I have the one to quit to keep my sanity? It’s not fair.
It sucks that the ones who give attention to the manager are the ones in good graces with her and that the quiet one who works when they go smoking and gossiping gets ignored, unrecognized and treated worse because he doesn’t want to play office politics.
A rational person would understand the difference between the things I can change and what I cannot change, but a part of me is still screaming for vengeance.
What I said on other posts about being scared still applies.
Just to add to the other great advice, I’m an ex-tech worker and I went through this every odd year when I switched. Five times in seven years.
It’s always awkward since you are leaving for a reason, and shit always sucks. It’s not you, it’s the system. Focus on your new place. It never gets simpler.
I think it’s the fact that it is a change and change brings uncertainty. If you stay where you are, you at least know what to expect even if it’s crap. Changing… You don’t know what to expect.
It’ll be okay. Tell yourself if will be okay. It’s time to step out of your comfort zone and embrace the change. It could be worse, but more likely it’ll be better. You’re doing the right thing.
Tbh, you’re better off long term working a variety of areas. If you just work (as an example) peds all your career, you’ll have missed out on a lot, as well as being subject to more limited opportunities if you leave a given hospital/facility.
You get enough time in across a few specialities, you have a better chance of finding an ideal work environment. Plus, lower risk of burnout.
You’re right, it isn’t fair. But if administration has failed to fix the issue, and you’re being treated poorly by coworkers in one unit, switching wards is the only real answer unless you want to leave the hospital entirely.
But, I gotta warn you. The kind of gossipy, drama loaded environment you’re leaving isn’t an exception to the field of nursing. That’s the default. There’s too many opportunities for boredom, and way too many stressors for a group of nurses and related staff to not engage in that kind of mindless bullshit. That’s how even the best end up coping with the realities of the job often enough that it’s often engrained into the culture of nursing no matter where you go.
You gotta make this about you improving your skills, experience, mental health, and keep your eyes on the long term. Forget the other people, forget politics. Do the job, become even better at it, and you’ll eventually find a place that’s right. Or, you’ll decide it isn’t worth it, and either leave nursing nursing entirely or leave facility work.
thank you for this great advice
It sucks that the ones who give attention to the manager are the ones in good graces with her and that the quiet one who works when they go smoking and gossiping gets ignored, unrecognized and treated worse because he doesn’t want to play office politics.
How do they know what you’re up to if you don’t talk to them about it?
