• Empricorn@feddit.nlEnglish
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    2 days ago

    You folks are way too mild with your criticism. “I’m so excited for this party, let’s go shopping for our outfits together! My boyfriend is even going all-out and offering fancy outfit budgets!” This works so much better, doesn’t embarrass the parent for not having the money to dress up in expensive clothes.

    As for the rest, wanting your parents to “look the part”? WTF? The “part” is who they are, not trying to look like someone else! And keep in mind, this isn’t her wedding or knighthood ceremony or anything, it’s just a party thrown at a whim by a rich dude.

    Lastly, if your parents are the type to genuinely embarrass you, it’s probably wise to not invite them. By the same token, if someone tells me “how to behave and what to say”, they can fuck all they way off. Unless it’s for a royal wedding. I will totally take etiquette classes if someone invites me!

  • SocialMediaRefugee@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    2 days ago

    This is the perfect time to dress fancy on the way in while smuggling in a bag of clothes. Change in the bathroom then come out in overalls, a dirty trucker cap, a “Marlboro Cigarettes” t shirt and workboots. “Too upscale?”

    • 𝕽𝖚𝖆𝖎𝖉𝖍𝖗𝖎𝖌𝖍@midwest.socialEnglish
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      2 days ago

      🤝

      Still a bit too upscale, though. I was thinking, top to bottom:

      • semi-transparent green sun visor
      • really work on that mustache; if it’s too full, thin it out until it’s scraggly and wispy
      • the Marlboro logo idea is great, but I think here you have to sacrifice to advertise that you’re “The Father of the Bride,” complete with printed bow-tie at the neck
      • Cargo shorts
      • Calf socks
      • Sandals, but not Birkenstock! Make sure it’s a cheap brand
      • Don’t forget a profusion of temporary tattoos on your calfs and arms! Extra points if they look poorly done and faded.
      • you can get black teeth caps that make it look like you’re missing teeth. Don’t skimp on accessories!

      And, most importantly: a fanny pack.

      I’ll admit, it’s mixing metaphors a bit, but at this point you’re shooting for more than just looking poor; you’re aiming beyond sheer embarrassment. You need to attain complete mortification.

  • Makeitstop@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    2 days ago

    Reminds me of my cousin. Her parents are lovely people, but they are not exactly… refined. Her dad in particular makes a first impression that I’d describe as a somewhat toned down Earnest P Worrell. And while he isn’t stupid he never learned a lot of important life skills and his past mistakes have have caused a fair amount of hardship, and that only fuels the resentment.

    By the time she was in high school it was clear my cousin was ashamed to be associated with her family. She kept her home life and social life as far apart as possible, and she was always excited to spend time with members of our extended family that she saw as much more normal. (Especially funny to me since my mom made that list and I’ve seen that woman scratch herself with the cutlery while dining out). She was also pretty fucking rude to her parents, openly talking crap about them while they were in the room. Very shitty, but not exactly shocking for a teenager in her position.

    Fast forward to today when my aunt and uncle own a hipstery restaurant, while my cousin got knocked up ended marrying a contractor / meth head.

  • RBWells@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    2 days ago

    Honestly one of the things I’m grateful for, is having had both rich family and very poor family. The thing about actually rich people is they don’t care, in my experience they are pretty gracious as long as you are relaxed. Dress to the absolute minimum of what is required (I’ve gotten away with $20 dresses and good shoes and nobody batted an eye.)

    If you can keep the clothes, get stuff you like, negotiate for a spa day, get your hair done, keep the style very, very simple and outshine them all! You can do it!

    Or you could decline the invite, if you aren’t interested in a fancy dress ball.

  • Pasta Dental@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
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    2 days ago

    🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

    If at the very least he worded it as “they are rich people and they will judge you if you don’t behave like them” but this sounds wrong. But I do get it. But still I don’t really. But I kinda do.

    • TempermentalAnomaly@lemmy.worldEnglish
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      2 days ago

      If others aren’t familiar with the TV show “Beverly Hillbillies”, it was a show in the 60s and in syndication when I was growing up. It consists of of a family from the Ozarks who move to Beverly Hills. They continue to live life like they always have, but now in CA with rich neighbors. When the neighbors see this, they look down at them.

      I remember there were neighbors who tried to get them to leave the neighborhood or try to trick them in some way. But the family would always outsmart them while maintaining the moral high ground.

  • NABDad@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    2 days ago

    Time to break out the straw hat and bib overalls.

    Maybe even blacken a few teeth.